You’ve all heard it: “Breast is best!”. I have to disagree with that statement.
Yes, breastMILK may be the best nutrient for your baby.
That I can agree on, but I have to say no, breast is NOT ALWAYS best.
I’ll pause for a moment while you block me, report me to the la leche league and throw eggs at my house.
Ready to hear why?
I sure hope so, because I’ve been through 9 months of an inner battle with myself on whether or not I made the right decision. I had SO many issues with breastfeeding my first two babies, so when I got pregnant with my third, and knew that I would have 3 UNDER 3, I had to make the tough choice. Would I even try to breastfeed and fight through the mastitis? Even though I’d tried everything, I still got it every few weeks. My babies struggled to grow on my milk, and a million other issues. Could I risk that, yet again?
So I made that hard decision: I didn’t breastfeed my third baby. I didn’t even TRY. *gasp* Honestly, I wanted nothing more than to be able to breastfeed her. I cried my eyes out when they brought her to me for the first time for her to eat and I had to stand firm in my choice to not nurse. Actually, my husband had to stand firm for me and feed her a bottle because I was an emotional mess and couldn’t do it.
Now that she is 9 months old, I’m happy to tell you that it was one of the best decisions I made as a mom.
It wasn’t a decision I made selfishly.
Yes, I have struggled with guilt.
But it was the absolute best choice for my family.
Let’s chat about some of those rumors we hear about breastfeeding, shall we?
Those things you hear will happen when you don’t breastfeed?
You won’t have a connection with your baby if you don’t breastfeed. I think this is probably the most common thing you hear about not breastfeeding. I’ve even had moms tell me they don’t feel a connection with their baby because they aren’t breastfeeding. WHY? Maybe it’s just because I had a horrible breastfeeding experience, but connecting with my child is never something I’ve had an issue with, and breastfeeding actually made it harder for me to bond because it was so difficult. I don’t think bonding has anything to do with the way they are fed.
Your baby won’t be healthy or able to fight off illness without breastmilk. I have three very healthy children. They rarely get sick and they each only had breastmilk for a few months. Formula is made so well now to help protect our babies and build antibodies just like God created our milk to do! I’m thankful for that!
Only the best moms breastfeed. That’s an absolute LIE. The fact of how good a mother is has nothing to do with how her baby eats. If her baby is eaten and well cared for, then she’s a great mother. End of story. For me personally, choosing NOT to breasted made me a better mom for my kids!
You won’t lose any weight if you don’t breastfeed. Believe it or not, breastfeeding is not the only way to lose weight. Many women will probably tell you they didn’t even lose their baby weight until they were done breastfeeding! Either way, weight should be your last concern at this point!!
It’s easier to nurse because you don’t have bottles and formula to haul around. Maybe it’s because my breastfeeding experience was so bad, but I feel the opposite! I don’t have to stop what I’m doing to feed, I don’t have to select my outfit based on if it’s breastfeeding accessible. I think each has it’s pros and cons! But I definitely don’t think that bottle feeding is that much more difficult!
Although I have struggled with it, I do not regret my decision. I have an amazing bond with my baby girl. She actually prefers for me to feed her, and wants to be held a certain way by me. She bonded with me because I am her mother, not because of how her food got into her body!