I get asked all the time how I handle it all. 3 kids 3 and under. That’s a lot of kids. A lot of babies. My day revolves around constantly cleaning up messes, breaking up girl fights and making sippy cups of milk and juice. The second I sit down, someone needs something. I hear “mommy” approximately 27 billion times a day.
So, you want to know how I do it all? The truth? I don’t. But I have some great advice to help you excel at managing multiple babies! These are some things that have really helped me through the last couple of years.
10. Make the room share move early. If you are planning to have your big kids share a room to prepare for baby, make the adjustment early. Remember they are all still babies, and give them time to adjust to all the new changes.
9. Choose one task per day. This has been a big rule for me. Instead of trying to conquer it all, I just choose one thing to conquer. Some days I do the dishes, another day I do laundry. I just don’t attempt to overwhelm myself with taking over the world all in one day.
8. Ask for help. This is the hardest for me. I don’t do well with asking for help because I feel like I should be able to do it all. I struggle with feeling like because this was my choice, I should be able to handle it all. The truth is that I can’t do it all, and I need to ask for help sometimes. Find people who you can ask for help from, and don’t be afraid to do it.
7. Find a network of moms. However you have to find them. I’m learning a lot about being intentional with my friendships. If this means you have to seek out people. Email some moms in the season you are in, you never know you could find your best friend! Have someone to send a text message to when you need encouragement in the middle of the day and to share the good days with too.
6. Make time for your husband. You are so busy all day with those little blessings. When bedtime finally comes, there’s nothing more you want to do than dig your face into a carton of ice cream and watch Pride & Prejudice for the millionth time. But there’s that man. The man that needs you. Take the time to remind him how important he is to you and listen to him.
5. Step away from Pinterest. Use paper plates. Serve corn dogs for dinner. Let your crafts consist of actual crayons and coloring books. Do not compare your parenting to those “perfect moms” you see on pinterest. Put down the mommy measuring stick and do the best you can for your babies.
4. This is just a season. It is. It will not last forever. Hug those babies. Rock them. Read to them. Don’t worry about the big things, and take time to focus on the little things. Just remember this season will end, and there will be another season to go through. Take a deep breath.
3. Do something special for your big kids. Remind yourself how much you like your kids. Do little things with them individually to focus on just them. It will mean a lot to them and a lot to you.
2. Take time for you. This is the most important. I can say it until I’m blue in the face, and I’m still terrible about it. Even if it’s going grocery shopping by yourself once a week. Do something for yourself. Anything to make you feel like a normal person! It’s so easy to get caught up your daily routine, but so important to focus on making you the best you.
1. Lots and lots of grace. And I mean lots of it. It’s ok to have pj and movie days. It’s ok to not leave the house for a week. It’s ok. You are doing a fabulous job, and you can’t put too much pressure on yourself. Grace, grace grace.
These are just some of the things that help me. I hope this encourages you and helps you know that you aren’t alone as a mom in this tough season! Keep up the good work mama, you’ve got this!!
What have you found that helps you?