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August 30, 2008 in help, i'm a pastor's wife, marriage is awesome with 2 Comments

Brook and I have been married six months.  It feels like six years!! In such a good way though.  I absolutely love being married.  There is nothing better in the entire world.  I love having a person I’m completely comfortable being myself with, no matter how weird I may be.  He loves me unconditionally and would do anything to make me happy.  You can’t beat that.  

However, I had no warning about the hard stuff.  When I said “i do”, I not only became his wife but I became a pastor’s wife.  AH! Why was there no warning about how difficult that would be at times? I’ve worked in ministry myself for years, but this side is quite different.  It’s a joy and an honor to be his partner in ministry.  I love that he values my opinion so highly and always wants my help.  But ministry is not as easy as it looks.  You are held to such a higher standard and much more is expected of you.  How do you deal with the people that aren’t always “nice” to the person that you love more than anything in the world? It’s difficult to draw the line between a Godly woman and a crazy woman.  Sometimes I just need to be crazy and tell people how I feel about them!! :)  

I’m learning.  Every single day I’m learning how to deal with different situations and how to support my husband.  I’m thankful for the amazing women God has placed in my life who have already done this for many years.  I would be lost without that guidance and knowledge. (Thanks Wendy!)

Marriage is the most amazing thing! I can’t wait for the next 6 months and the MANY more after that.  How blessed I am!!

The Best Worst

August 16, 2008 in marriage is awesome, random with 2 Comments

I have had the best worst year of my life.  

Hmm…not really sure if that’s possible but somehow it worked out that way. A little over a year ago (August 4th to be exact), the man of my dreams gave me a beautiful diamond ring and asked me to be his bride.  By far the best thing that anyone has ever asked me :)  

Then reality hit and I had to step down from my position at Lifechurch, by far one of the hardest things I’ve had to do.

I also got very sick and ended up having to have my gallbladder taken out.  

Birth control did a number on my body, emotions and hormones.  WOW we won’t even go there…

LOTS of job issues.

So basically it’s been a rough year.   

Finding the “perfect job” isn’t an easy task.  Especially when you are a wedding coordinator! I was recently doing events for a place and decided to leave there so I could pursue weddings fully.  So right now I am unemployed and searching for the right place for me.  It’s very difficult to feel like I’m not contributing to our little family (someone has to buy the dog food!).   

But as I look at all these “terrible” things I’ve gone through, I’m blown away by the blessings.  Each thing has brought Brook and I closer.  I trust him and know I can count on him for everything.  He sees me through it all, and loves me unconditionally through it all. Everyday God shows me how much He loves me and cares for me through my husband.  I never knew love could be like this! We are definitely stronger because of it all, and believe me I know how to deal with a bad day when it comes my way! 

So bring on the hard times, we can handle it and by the grace of God…this too shall pass.   

Five Month Recap

July 29, 2008 in marriage is awesome with 5 Comments

 

Today Brook and I have officially been married for 5 months. 

Somehow it seems like 5 years, and completely in a good way. 

 

 Some things I’ve learned in the first 5 months of marriage:
1) Communication is key
2) Boys don’t know how to make a bed
3) My husband puts me above everything in his life (2nd to Christ) & I am called to do the same
4) It’s not always going to be easy…but it’s always easier together
5) To always support him & tell him how proud I am of him

Some tough stuff we’ve been through:
1) Bad job situations
2) Finding new jobs
3) Death
4) Testing of our patience
5) Birth Control

Some great joys we’ve experienced:
1) Engagements/Marriages of brothers & sisters
2) Road trips & vacations together
3) “Fun stuff”  
4) Living & learning together!
5) Pushing each other to pursue our dreams

“The Lord has done great things for us, and we are filled with JOY!” Psalm 126:3

It's not about the wedding day….GASP!

July 26, 2008 in help, i'm a pastor's wife, marriage is awesome with 3 Comments

WHAT?!?!?!?! 

I know you’re starting to think I fell and hit my head or something is seriously wrong with me.  I’m starting to think the same thing! But it’s true… it’s not about that.  It’s about building a successful marriage.  A marriage to last a lifetime.  That doesn’t happen in one day.  My darling, sweet, and stunningly handsome husband made a post on his blog yesterday that was oh-so-true.  

Now don’t get me wrong, I still think weddings are the bomb diggity. They get me excited and make me want to burst randomly into song.  But I worry that too many times brides and grooms to be focus too much on their big day and not enough on what happens after that exciting send-off.  Only being a newlywed for 5 months, I’ve learned a lot but I sure have a lot more to learn! 

So my encouragement to brides….focus on what is to come.  You can still plan the party of the century (or leave that up to me :) ) and plan for your future.  Learn your mate….really learn them. Learn how to LOVE them and the best ways to do it.  Ask the hard questions and don’t be afraid to get out if you know it’s not what God has for you.  I recently had a great friend end an engagement because she knew God had something better.  It was truly a life changing experience for me to watch her go through what she did, and I’m so excited to see what the future holds for her because it’s not in her hands anymore.  It won’t always be easy! But when you’re with the person God MADE for you, there’s nothing better in the world.  

Even when he leaves his dirty socks on the floor and doesn’t understand your “cooking techniques”. 

Ok…back to thinking weddings are everything.  

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